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Posted by Starlercat | May 27th, 2015

I have a friend (12 years old; call her for the purpose of this Cassie) who is self harming. She comes to school everyday with a new bandage. She has told her dad, my friend (we’ll call her Gretchen), and me. Nobody at school seems to notice but me and Gretchen. When they do notice, she says she fell ice skating or some other excuse. It has gotten pretty serious, she is missing 5 periods of school to injure. She wants to stop but hasn’t. Her dad is in denial. Any advice?

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I’m so confused

Posted by hopeful2bhappy | May 15th, 2015

I wish I could understand why or who or even when it all got so out of sorts. I thought things were okay and now I’m exhausted from every thought and feeling. My friends pushed and pushed asking what was wrong this morning and now they’re pretending to care. I know I can handle many things, but I’m tired of hiding and lying to me and everyone else. I wish I knew how to ask, I’m40 something and people think that I should just suck it up and move on, but they don’t understand that even I don’t know why I do this.



Posted by MayceeLN | May 13th, 2015

So, I’ve done very spaced out, off and on, self harm since September 2015. My friend thinks I should tell my parents, and I know that’s the right thing to do, but I can’t do it.


trouble exerting authority for fear of daughter hurting herself

Posted by rlock | May 13th, 2015

We are very new to self injury, my daughter has started therapy, both parents trying to be loving and nonjudgmental. My problem as the mom is I’m having trouble exerting my authority because I’m afraid to stress her out and give her a perceived reason to SI. As a result, she is running the show, so to speak, not following the therapists recommendations ( no social media). Any suggestions? This is a hard struggle for the whole family. Thank you



Posted by hopeful2bhappy | May 13th, 2015

I used to wonder when enough would be enough, will it ever get better? I know it has to or at least it’s supposed to. This last weekend was so hard for me, but I got through with no s. I. , but not easy. I need to back to counseling soon and I hope that will help. Life is what we make it, or that’s what they tell me. Trying to believe it right now. I have felt alone, but I hope sharing here will help me and maybe help someone else.


It always goes wrong!!!!

Posted by tryingtochange | May 2nd, 2015

Have you ever had an awesome day with the person your with?? And then it all goes WRONG!!! ¬†well this happens to me all the time!!! Someone else will make him mad but he blames me. Throws stuff in my face that he knows that I struggle with n doesn’t care. But everything is always my fault!!! Idk what to do I can’t down I try to talk to myself to make it not bother me but its just so fustrating that the one person that is suppose to understand you doesn’t n doesn’t care enough to apologize for it n you have to apologize for nothing because did nothing wrong!! ITS STUPID!!!



Posted by LizzieD | April 28th, 2015

I injured, again. I really hate myself for it and all I want to do is curl up into a ball and cry. I was a month clean and I screwed it all up. I have self image problems and have been diagnosed with depression. I’m anorexic and everyone says I’m skinny but I’m scared to gain weight. Just wanted to write that out I guess…



Posted by butterflychick | April 26th, 2015

It’s been so long since I have been alone. My mom is out of town, and the house feels so quiet. I don’t feel like I can turn to anybody anymore.

Just a few months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. We began dating right after I first starting any SI. He helped me to heal and grow past those feelings. Now that we are not together, I want to go back to that familiarity. In a few days it would be our four year anniversary. I’ve been trying to hard to remain free. But getting closer to the date I just feel so lost. I want to grasp any sense of control however I can. I know I can’t but I just don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I can breathe.


Feeling like a caterpillar…

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Posted by VicToriDuuhhh | April 26th, 2015

So this sysmester is my final sysmester in school before going into adulthood and going off to college.I’m trying to keep it to an easy sysmester this year,but numerous amount of things have stressed me out! One guy who has a gf was dating (he wasn’t dating me) and he told me that he loved me.I asked him why did u say that and we got into this big argument and he wouldn’t stop acting like he was all right and I was wrong.I didn’t know who to tell,so I started injuring myself.I immediately got help for it by a friend and didn’t do it for the longest time.I did it another time a couple months later bc my bf was telling me about having invitro and the fact that we had the convo for two days made me mad bc we were both way to young! And just this week I did it bc everyone kept throwing their attitudes toward me and another girl loves to just get me riled with anger.So she picks on me every chance she gets and it isn’t fair! What makes it worse is that the guilt is making me depressed,shamed,and scared to tell my teacher what I’ve done becaus I feel really pathetic for what I did.Should I just talk to her? And what should I do about injuring bc I want to stop,I just find that it’s my only form of comfort and an easier way to deal with things. And I feel that no one listens anymore.

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Step 1

Posted by tryingtochange | April 24th, 2015

Well first I would like to say that I am new to blogging and any kind of therapy; but I want to change. I’ve known for awhile that I need help!!! Let me start by¬†telling a little bit about myself. I am 22 years old, I¬†began injuring when I was 11 years old two years after the event. It was easy to hide in a family of 7 there was really no¬†one on one time with anyone. So I went three years¬†without telling anyone and just slowly wasting away. Playing sports, making sure my grades were¬†up to¬†par, keeping my parents happy, and harboring the event¬†became more and¬†more stressful.¬†It all became to much and I took what was left of¬† my bottle of medicine.¬†It wasn’t enough it¬†I didn’t even pass out, I got sick for like two days got very sick nd sweating out of control.¬†¬†I haven’t injured in 5 years but now I’ve moved on to another type of S.I. This method is more discrete and doesn’t allow anyone to have any sort of suspicion. IDK! For some reason it makes me feel better. Almost like forcing all the crazy thoughts of my mind. My boyfriend of 5 years has been my rock in this changing process but I know that I cant allow my change to be surrounded around him because GOD forbid we break up I will spiral out of control and it isn’t healthy for our relationship either so that leads me to this. How do I STOP the thoughts and STOP the S.I????? Any advice will help.

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