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Feeling weak

Posted by invisible | February 7th, 2016

The last few weeks have been awful. It has been years since I have felt so out of control. Stress levels are at an all time high. It is as if the whole family is under this oppressive feeling. No on one seems to have joy or peace. It is more than I can bare. Mostly it is money issues that are weighing us down with no end in sight. I feel sad, frustrated and angry more than I feel peace or joy. So overwhelmed. Feeling tired. Just plain tired and stuck. It’s got to get better, right? Feeling crushed by all the crud that life is throwing at us. Invisible, as usual. Nothing I say or do seems to matter.

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Posted by butterflychick | February 6th, 2016

Tomorrow is the anniversary of my break-up. I have now told myself that it is, was, an emotionally abusive relationship. Yet that doesn’t stop my loneliness. Although I am excited that I have a new chapter in my life, a different sort of depression has set. One that I have been battling for years… the conflict with my self identity, my sexuality. I know that is something that I have written about several times… but that’s because I’ve been trying to come to terms with it for years… possibly about 8 or 9 now. I think thats funny… But I have made progress, I am starting to come out now to friends at least. To begin telling people, or doing assignments in class on the LGBT community. I just wish I could experience a real relationship with somebody. That has not changed… I feel like, If I could kiss somebody, and be in love, it will be okay. I guess that’s the part of me that’s not grown up yet. I’m stronger single… I just need to stay strong. I can’t let my confusion consume me.

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Long Time

Posted by painchangedme | January 29th, 2016

I don’t know what to do right now. I have’;t harmed myself since I was 17, It has almost been three years but I feel like crap again. My heart hurts. My whole body hurts. I feel lost and frustrated and unwanted. I feel like I am not worthy of anyone. I was with someone who I thought I was going to marry and he broke up with me and told him that I was wasn’t good enough for him. I feel worthless. I am falling apart again fr the first time in 3 years. Someone please help me. I want to hurt myself to take the emotional pain away. I feel like I deserve it.

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hello beautiful

Posted by prayplagues | January 25th, 2016

hey um my names Mikaela and last night/this morningthe worst couple of hours of my name I was were battling with myself. I had thoughts of ending it all. I had images of me S.I ing and it was horrible. I kept seeing things I saw black shadows I couldn’t move. I’m glad I didn’t take my life last night and if you’re reading this congratulations. you’ve lived any other day and that’s incredible. msg me anytime I’m here for you. we all are stay strong stay beautiful I love you all.

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My Girlfriend Injures

Posted by Here4help | January 19th, 2016

My girlfriend and I haven’t been together very long yet, but it has come to my understanding that she injures regularly. I’m worried for her health and need some answer on ways she can avoid doing this to herself.

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Getting There

Posted by lookingforpeace | January 18th, 2016

It’s been about 3 months since I last used any form of SI. I think about it about every other day now. The urge is still there but it’s more a faint flicker rather than a raging blaze. Today I found out that my sister is pregnant again. It was a bit of a blow since I’ve been struggling with infertility for over a year now. Even with this news, that flicker still is just a flicker. I’m getting there with a large part of the help I received from a great, understanding therapist. I once went 6 years without my main way of SI. There is hope. I have more of a reason to continue on this path – I’m going back to school to finish my counseling degree. To be an effective helper, I need to be free of SI, but not necessarily rid of it, because it is part of my past and part of who I am as a person. Free of the control that SI has over me. It wasn’t easy. It was a long process of trial and error and practice over the course of a year to find what would help the urges.

Hopefully what has helped me will help someone else.

Recite a list of colors, plants, vehicles, animals – anything that you can list off many things.

Call a close friend to say the list to.

Find something to ground you in different locations – focus on the color of something, a smell, a taste, a texture.

Find a safe replacement/distraction – squeeze an ice cube in your fist.

Remove yourself from the location you commonly use SI when you have an urge.


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Help with parenting

Posted by ashnol | December 31st, 2015

I am new to this and I have a 14y/o stepdaughter that has turned to injuring. I have been reading blogs, websites and articles for weeks that all say teens who injure will hide the marks and not let anyone know. I have a very different situation. My teen mainly injures if she is being punished for inappropriate behavior and immediately tells us that she has hurt herself. There are only a few times that she hasn’t told us. When she is grounded from her phone we try to let her have the computer and house phone to communicate with friends (although I know many teens text or chat now). I just feel that everything I am reading has contradicted my situation. Has anyone had any experience with the small amount of teens who injure for attention?



Posted by Lexi23 | December 15th, 2015

I am 15 and all I ever think about is hurting myself. I need people to talk to and help finding ways to stop me from this way of thinking. Please help

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I’m the Mom of a heroin addict who was released from 4 days of jail yesterday & she’s 26.

Posted by FromPA | December 5th, 2015

I don’t know what to do. ¬†She was court ordered into counseling at 15 when she was injuring. Last year she was arrested for heroin. She was 5 months clean. She was working a program through drug court. ¬†Her friend at 25 died of drugs recently. So she took a train to Philadelphia and did heroin again. She was caught by her PO the next day & admitted she’d flunk the test. So she was arrested again for 4 days & got out yesterday. ¬†She called me today. ¬†I have no idea what to do. She’s 26. Her only sibling died as an infant in December. It’s December now and I’m already depressed. ¬†I don’t know anything to do to take care of myself or her. ¬†She’s back living with her father and he never called me when she was arrested again.

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help me help her

Posted by dd29271 | November 30th, 2015

I have just found out my 22 year old daughter SI. I am so scared. I am also feeling such guilt, as she said she has done this since probably about 16 years old. How did I not know? I have read that people who SI have been abused ….but she was not abused….she was loved by her father and I…we did divorce but remained very good friends and always worked together caring for our children. I remarried, and about age 15, my husband died unexpectedly. Could this have triggered the initial pain and SI? And how can I help her….she is starting to engage in drinking at times…I am encouraging her to seek help….but I don’t know if she will. She got angry with me because i know I started getting too involved and rushing to ask her so many questions. I promised her i would back off, and assured her I am here for her and will help support her through this. She lives on her own, so I am not with her daily. I am trying to keep my own emotions in check, but can’t stop crying. I love her so much and can’t bear to see her in pain. I just need help…is there help and success in addressing this